The Cerebral Narcissist uses his intellect, his intelligence and his professional achievements to obtain the same.

As I said, Narcissists are either cerebral or somatic.

This slows down the process of them collecting data and allows you an opportunity to determine if they are lying.

Also, it can put them off balance and make them less attracted to you.In other words, they either generate their narcissistic supply by applying their bodies or by applying their minds.The somatic narcissist flaunts his sexual conquests, parades his possessions, exhibits his muscles, brags about his physical aesthetics or sexual prowess or exploits, is often a health freak and a hypochondriac.To remind you, I distinguish two types of narcissists: the Somatic Narcissist and the Cerebral Narcissist.The somatic type relies on his body and sexuality as Sources of Narcissistic Supply.The narcissist is trying to be something-- which already has a model. The borderline has a problem with identity only because other people in the world have stronger identities. Your boyfriend wants a different woman; so you do it. This si done mostly out of fear of abandonment: if you don't "be" the person they want, then they'll leave you, and then what?Perhaps he thinks himself an artist type, or a tough guy, or the type interested in spiritualism, or like the guy in the Matrix. The borderline is no one: the borderline waits for the script to define her. (Borderlines don't end relationships-- they end relationships another relationship.) The narcissist creates an identity, then tries to force everyone else to buy into it.It is important in any relationship that there be reciprocity, so asking someone about themselves as much as they ask you, is a good thing. Never reveal personal or private information early.The rule of thumb is that if you wouldn’t tell everyone at work, it is not something to share in the first couple of weeks of a relationship. The first is that it gives you a sense of intimacy with this person.Narcissism- what I believe to be the primary disease of our times-- is one side of a coin.The other side-- the narcissist's enabler-- is the borderline.The cerebral narcissist is a know-it-all, haughty and intelligent “computer”.He uses his awesome intellect, or knowledge (real or pretended) to secure adoration, adulation and admiration.I know a lot of other borderlines who say they have the same problem–they simply are not attracted to a man or woman who is not a narcissist. Both BPD and NPD are included in the category of Cluster B personality disorders in the DSM-V (along with Histrionic and Antisocial personality disorders).Cluster B disorders are all characterized at their root by problems establishing an identity early in childhood and integrity of the Self which causes people with these disorders to act out toward themselves or others in destructive ways and to have problems either accessing or developing prosocial emotions like empathy.